What Old Beliefs Are You Holding Onto?

Jessica (we will call her) came to one of my Coaching session saying, “I’m really am not meant to be a in the job i am in .” She had been offered a promotion to a Head-Teacher role but she was planning on not to accept it. She felt certain her supervisor’s confidence in her was misguided, force, just to build her confidence and to be nice,

However there was a bundle of evidence that proved Jessica could be a great Head Teacher, people naturally warmed to her and sought out her advice, loved her for what she did and could see her full potential,

In addition to the support from her supervisors, her friends often told her she should apply for the position. She thought she had great experience & potential to lead a group of children,

Jessica , however, couldn’t see herself stepping up in to this role. She had grown up as shy introverted, un loved from an unloving family , Jessica always preferred to sit in the back of the classroom. And she had once overheard a teacher tell her parents, “She is more of a follower than a leader.”

Twenty-five years later, Jessica was convinced She was meant to live the life of a follower. Although she really wanted to lead, She believed she lacked the innate talent to be a good Teacher.

Much like Jessica , all of us hold onto the beliefs we developed during childhood and how we are brought up into the world. And quite often, we let those negative self-beliefs prevent us from being as successful as we could be.

Your Beliefs Stick – Even When They Don’t Serve You Well..

Whether you’ve concluded that you’re not very smart or you’ve decided you’re socially awkward, those beliefs will stick because of a psychological principle known as “belief

Once you believe something — whether it’s a political belief or a belief about yourself — you’ll filter out evidence to the contrary. Someone who believes they’re stupid, for example, may get up a good grade on a test to luck or she may declare her success is a random fluke.

In addition, once you’ve developed a core belief, you’ll pay close attention to any evidence that reinforces your belief. So if someone who believes she’s stupid passes nine tests but fails one, she’ll conclude the one failed test serves as further proof she’s unintelligent (as opposed to thinking the nine successful tests may mean she’s smart).

It isn’t just beliefs about yourself — you’re likely to cling to beliefs you hold about other people. For decades, studies have shown it takes more compelling evidence to change beliefs than it took to create them.

This is why making the first impression on others is so important. Once they form judgments about you, it’s hard to shake their beliefs.

But clearly, we do the same things to ourselves. We cling to our beliefs even when they don’t serve us well because it’s hard to essentially “unlearn” what you know to be true.

What Beliefs Are You Still Holding Onto?

You learned about yourself from various sources over the years — tests you took, the feedback you received from teachers, what your parents said to you, and how your friends treated you. And there’s a good chance you developed some inaccurate self-limiting beliefs along the way.

Take time to consider which beliefs might be limiting your potential. Perhaps you are smarter than think, more capable than you give yourself credit for, and stronger than you know. But before you can change your beliefs, you have to be open to the possibility that those things you believed to be true for all these years might not be 100 percent accurate.

Go for the Job you want - I could see so much potential in Jess which she couldn't see herself...